Guys Reveal How Much They'll Text A Girl They Like Before The First Date

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Sometimes, I really just want to throw my phone into the ocean and never worry about calling or texting anyone again. But then, I remember all the memes I'd miss out on, and the fact that that phone costs more than I want to think about, and it stays glued to my goddamn hand. I'm a bitter slave to technology.

But being trapped in this cycle of constant communication with anyone and everyone can f*ck you up a little bit, especially with dating. How often do guys text a girl they like before the big first date? Is it OK if I text that girl I like first? What if someone I like hasn't responded to my text in five hours? WHAT IF NONE OF MY CRUSHES LAUGH AT THE MEMES I SEND THEM?

Imagine me saying this in a definitely sarcastic, high-pitched, whiny voice: Life is SO hard sometimes, you guys. But luckily, some guys on Reddit may have made at least one part of it a little easier, as they revealed how often they text a girl they like before a first date. So if you're worrying about how often your date texts you before the actual event, well, mostly don't worry about that because this guy does not deserve your worry just yet. But to satisfy your curiosity, read along:

This guy says it definitely depends on the situation.

Situational. If the conversation is natural and flowing, then keep texting. If it is seeming a little forced then keep it minimal.

/u/cuddlebuddies01

These guys think you gotta leave some stuff to talk about on the first date.

You want to leave some stuff to talk about on your date. If she initiates, great, but don't text her every day.

/u/MrSplitty

Don't over do it. You might find yourself running out of things to say during the date. I would keep it at a minimum but just enough to keep them interested until the date. Don't make the mistake of going through your life story in the days leading up.

/u/TinFoilHat_9001

This guy understands the importance of a good meme when texting a girl, thank God.

5 days is kind of a long time to go completely without communication. I would wait 2-3 days then text her some random one-line inside joke or meme.

Other than that, just confirm the date with a text on the day itself. Something like "8pm still work for you tonight?" When she responds you say "Cool, looking forward to it" and that's about it.

In general, if you guys are communicating well and it's flowing easily, keep on with it. But don't force it. Less is more.

/u/PM_ME_BOYSHORTS

These guys will match whatever you're doing (because you're always right, duh).

Match it with hers. If she texts a lot then don't be scared to text a lot too.

/u/lilbeanies

I go at her pace. If she's chatty and texts me I'll text back if the conversation has nice chemistry to it. Usually a good sign she's interested btw.

/u/vincentninja68

Depends on her, really.

Preferably I like to keep it somewhat minimal (like, have a couple good conversations a day, but not texting 24/7)

/u/NorthernSpade

This woman said her now-fiancé would text her every day leading up to their first date.

I met my now fiancé on Tinder! We started chatting on the app, moved it to cell phone texting a day later, and texted every day for a few days until we had our first date. If the conversation flows – go with it!

My fiancé made it clear from the start that e liked me, enjoyed my company, and wanted to spend more time together. At first I was skeptical because guys play so many damn games! Then I realized he was just being genuine. It was lovely and refreshing!

/u/SamDiddlyAm07

These guys will barely text you beforehand apparently. (Why, though?)

As little as possible

/u/TakuanThePickleMonk

Text nothing except the bare essentials like where you're going to meet. Talk on the phone and in person before the texting becomes a way of conversation.

/u/SantasDead

as little as possible. Just arrange a date via texts, that's it. People saying 2 weeks etc are literally insane. Tinder is not for texting or showing off your true self. It is just means to arrange a date/hookup. That's all this app does.

/u/Maikowski2

This guy is literally the most specific person ever, and his thumbs probably hurt a lot. I don't know his life, though.

51 texts

/u/Kanyeologist

This guy will call you on the phone instead, and I hate the fact that this is simultaneously cute but still fills me with fear and anxiety.

In today's text-dependent world, I have found it to be a GAME CHANGER to actually call the girl. Literally the sooner, the better. Catches them off guard and it makes you look v confident and in control. 10/10 highly recommend.

/u/humor_fetish

But at the end of the day, /u/B0000000BS is probably right. Guys are just gonna do them.

Do whatever you feel comfortable doing.

/u/B0000000BS

Don't get too caught up in the nitty-gritty of texting, my friends. Some of those guys are right, anyway. You do want to leave some stuff to talk about on the actual date. A few text conversations and maybe some funny memes in the few days before are all you need to get a feel for this person leading up to your date.

Because if your date isn't sending you funny memes in the first place, how fun will this person be anyway? That's not someone I want to be with. (Is this why I'm not with anyone? Someone date me.)

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Guys Reveal How Much They'll Text A Girl They Like Before The First Date



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